tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post4545870030646530653..comments2024-03-26T16:19:11.382-07:00Comments on Crossdreamers: On friendship and sorrowSally Molayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02015510914816971645noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-38772868759305537192011-04-02T18:09:07.236-07:002011-04-02T18:09:07.236-07:00Perhaps Jack it is time for you to actually attemp...Perhaps Jack it is time for you to actually attempt to realise the thoughts in your head in the physical world? Maybe the intense frustration is mainly because everything 'is in the head' alone. <br /><br />The brain can only be satisfied to a certain level in the dreaming world. From my AGP experience there are many levels that you go through. The door to the next level could be opening but your resistance to go though is causing you grief??? <br /><br />Experiencing different methods of using crossdreaming in your head, via fantasy such as Second Life, Fem Hypnosis, TG Captioning, Stories or just plain porn will always leave you at the brick wall. <br /><br />I understand the 'next level' could be seen as a major and serious step, which may be wrapped up in fear and wonder as to where it could go. Whatever size, shape or age you are, you should have ago at expressing Rebecca. From reading between the lines I think you paint a picture of yourself as a very masculine appearance, which I guess puts you off trying? But it should not if this is the case. There are plenty of trans people out there who are masculine in appearance but still succeed in looking good. It is a learned skill that you don't get over night. <br /><br />Does your girlfriend know about your crossdreaming? It may not be a long term solution but it may offer release in the short term. As I said this is only the second level your brain may be offering you, there are plenty more levels before complete madness takes over LOL.<br /><br /> I'm sorry if I may not understand your own personal crossdreaming experience (after all only you can) but say all of the above with the best intentions.Cheryl Sussexhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02512809610979507630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-77058015596412543832011-04-02T08:59:36.413-07:002011-04-02T08:59:36.413-07:00Thanks to you all for comments. I see now that I ...Thanks to you all for comments. I see now that I have to test out Second Life.<br /><br />JackJack Molayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03629363646482611722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-71357861020473491162011-04-01T10:45:51.578-07:002011-04-01T10:45:51.578-07:00Second Life is also an okay place to talk about th...Second Life is also an okay place to talk about this with others, if you find the right others.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-28241831687773769592011-03-31T12:48:51.634-07:002011-03-31T12:48:51.634-07:00Yes, it can be very lonely at times not being able...Yes, it can be very lonely at times not being able for reasons like you mentioned, to let one’s heart out to a friend who just listens.<br />I’m lucky to have one and she can even lend me a professional ear since she’s a physiological therapist. I used to overload her with my trans stuff, which is not a good thing because I don’t want it to dominate our versatile relation.<br />So now I focus more on my on line friends to share my feelings. Writing really does help me to give some direction to the constant stream of thoughts.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-70574126218516217742011-03-31T11:06:21.024-07:002011-03-31T11:06:21.024-07:00For most of my life, I have coped by living my cro...For most of my life, I have coped by living my crossdreaming life in my mind in fantasies. I didn't talk about it. I didn't act on my feelings.<br /><br />But, now I want to find others like me in the *real world*. I want to express myself in the real world. (I want to wear my ex-girlfriend jeans, a girl's t-shirt and tom's shoes during daylight on a Saturday.)<br /><br />And, I think I can do that, but I recently noticed that, I don't even remember what it is like to have close friends. <br /><br />And, I have no idea what it means to be friends with another man who knows that I am a crossdreamer. <br /><br />I haven't ever had male friends who knew that I was crossdreamer, and it has been years since I had "regular" adult friends. <br /><br />At some point, I moved away from my friends and focused my attention on my work, dating, and then marriage and family.<br /><br />I feel like I need to re-learn what it means to have friends.<br /><br />Thanks for starting Crossdream life, I think it is going to help.harrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10322720378497072402noreply@blogger.com