tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post6803176929290928323..comments2024-03-26T16:19:11.382-07:00Comments on Crossdreamers: A Creative Crossdreamer Vocabulary, from "Dark Crossdreamers" to "Misaffirmation"Sally Molayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02015510914816971645noreply@blogger.comBlogger28125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-81479441525000339902013-12-09T09:40:03.475-08:002013-12-09T09:40:03.475-08:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Reaity Checkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13837911431745318620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-13850288667483881012013-12-09T05:21:20.436-08:002013-12-09T05:21:20.436-08:00This comment has been removed by the author.Jack Molayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03629363646482611722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-49294988480878413662013-12-09T04:35:30.532-08:002013-12-09T04:35:30.532-08:00...oh and for the record, the reason your site is ......oh and for the record, the reason your site is a target for troubled crackpots is because it is one of the best (if not te best) and most introspective websites on the net dealing with this very complex subject. It also provides support for those of us who understand first hand what it is to be this way.<br /><br />The rest of the sites out there deal with personal experiences but don't delve into the science and the research and for that, Jack Molay, you should be congratulated.joannaShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07470526724889188451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-68114384846581988782013-12-09T04:24:36.553-08:002013-12-09T04:24:36.553-08:00"Until you are willing to engage in fair and ..."Until you are willing to engage in fair and open discussion, I stand by my demonstrated/proven assertion that you are a coward, liar and a fraud."<br /><br />Note that this is a clear ruse as nothing that is intelligently published out there will be addressed by her. She has no allies among the published authors (including Benjamin I might add) and she resorts to copying and pasting from other people's websites for her own twisted ends. This is not a person interested in open and clear dialogue.<br /><br />You will just have to continue to push the delete buttons because you are dealing with such severe and deeply rooted pathology here that nothing else will help.<br />joannaShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07470526724889188451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-30995247455184625352013-12-09T04:10:47.480-08:002013-12-09T04:10:47.480-08:00@Jack
I have already figured out as you have (and...@Jack<br /><br />I have already figured out as you have (and sometime ago I might add) that AQV is not a balanced person. It took me a while because while I was going through my own turmoil I was temporarily fooled by her feigning assistance. What I subsequently learned is that she was trying to make sure her own particular message got through to me. Of course that message turned out to me a disconnected and unintelligent mess but it was hard for me at the time to see that.<br /><br />My opinion is that she is highly troubled and the topics of discussion here hit home because much of them are true and she knows it. If they were not she would not be arguing so vehemently and with such vigour. What makes us angry an hits a nerve is what we believe inside but don't want to admit. I faced those same demons myself until I healed myself on the inside.<br /><br />She no longer affects me in the least and in fact her juvenile behaviour would be considered humorous if it were not masking such incredible discomfort and anger.<br /><br />joannaShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07470526724889188451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-52209735068846938812013-12-07T11:05:10.433-08:002013-12-07T11:05:10.433-08:00This comment has been removed by the author.Jack Molayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03629363646482611722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-38324366772635702202013-12-07T10:20:01.559-08:002013-12-07T10:20:01.559-08:00Gee Jack. Such ignorance and lack of couth. You ...Gee Jack. Such ignorance and lack of couth. You run a public forum here and you think in your arrogance that you can insult and disparage those that find your lies and defamation offensive. Well think again.<br /><br />This is NOT your house. This is nothing more than your fantasy rants, where you invent your own fake/fraudulent 'reality' and even attempt to invent your own language.<br /><br />You allow your sycophants to piss all over anybody that disagree with them or your crackpot "science". You are waste of skin and deserve exactly what the world is willing to waste its time dumping upon you.<br /><br />You claim to be open to free and constructive dialogue, (a blatant LIE), yet you insult, disparage and do everything you can to silence ANY dissent. <br /><br />Until you are willing to engage in fair and open discussion, I stand by my demonstrated/proven assertion that you are a coward, liar and a fraud.<br /><br />In other words PISS OFF!<br /><br />or in your case, JACK OFF!Reaity Checkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13837911431745318620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-49210870885720330482013-12-07T03:49:53.230-08:002013-12-07T03:49:53.230-08:00Reality Check /AQV
What is it with the words &quo...Reality Check /AQV<br /><br />What is it with the words "Get the fuck out of my house!" you do not understand? I know that English is my second language, but I am pretty sure I have managed to communicate the idea that you are not welcome here. <br /><br />Any other "normal" person (and I am using the word "normal" in the widest sense here) will understand that if someone asks you to leave their home and never come back again, you do stay away. This also applies to those who have problems interpreting the naunces of body language and pitch of voice.<br /><br />Or maybe you were raised this way? <br /><br />Your mother put you on her knee and said: "Reality, what people really want is for you to go into their living room and take a solid dump on their finest carpet." <br /><br />And your father would chime in: "Yes, Reality, but also know that some of them may get a little bit annoyed and ask you to leave. If they do so you will help them immensely if you accused them of being perverted idiots preventing the freedom of speech." <br /><br />Something tells me that this was not the message they tried to get across, but what do I know? Something definitely went seriosuly wrong.<br /><br />As far as I know only sociopaths behave in the manipulative and cruel ways you do. Prove me wrong. Prove to me that you are not a sociopath. Prove to me that you have an ounce of decency, social intelligence and empathy, and stay away.<br /><br />Again, just to make sure that there is no misunderstanding. I will write this with capital letters and add some bold:<br /><br /><b>YOU. ARE. NOT. WELCOME. HERE!</b><br />Jack Molayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03629363646482611722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-6855778612461166282013-12-06T17:32:45.324-08:002013-12-06T17:32:45.324-08:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Reaity Checkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13837911431745318620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-24423519214239390572013-12-06T17:26:43.417-08:002013-12-06T17:26:43.417-08:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Reaity Checkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13837911431745318620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-28779768956022244782013-12-06T13:10:35.554-08:002013-12-06T13:10:35.554-08:00Hope that I didn't come off as "unnecessa...Hope that I didn't come off as "unnecessarily pedagogical and incoherently verbose", as I was just being playful -- and recursively acknowledged my lack of clarity. <br /><br />I do strive clarity most times, as what is the point of expressing yourself in a way your interlocutor won't understand?<br /><br />In any case, if you ever get tired of me, you only need tell me to bugger off once, and you won't hear from me again. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00381702883992271891noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-73448215359904367182013-12-06T04:00:47.964-08:002013-12-06T04:00:47.964-08:00again, much of the gender behavior that is approve...again, much of the gender behavior that is approved or not is dictated by the societal norms of the day. If you happen to live in a society that is particularly restrictive and you are a crossdreamer then you will suffer all the more by ingesting culpability for how you feel and behave.<br /><br />Since when is society as a whole a healthy and useful barometer for your individual compass? I have learnt at my age to trust my own instinct far more and ignore the passing social conventions which are, more often than not, founded on pure stupidity and ignorance.<br /><br />What you wear or don't wear out in public and even more so in your home is entirely your own business; even more so what you think and feel as a person. If YOU feel it then it has validity. No one has a right to pronounce themselves on the subject unless they have experienced the same thing and are qualified to do so.<br /><br />Suffering fools and idiots is something I no longer have tolerance for.joannaShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07470526724889188451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-73811079394860299922013-12-06T03:52:52.860-08:002013-12-06T03:52:52.860-08:00The litmus test for banning should be: is the pers...The litmus test for banning should be: is the person interested in discussing intelligently or instead either repeating their own mantra/taunting others or behaving irrationally. <br /><br />You have given these people plenty of opportunity and yet they persist in playing games. Ultimately you had little choice. <br /><br />The taunter can always find solace in their belief that they were being drowned out due to bias against their message instead of their comportment.joannaShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07470526724889188451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-1709251562708492172013-12-06T03:33:48.178-08:002013-12-06T03:33:48.178-08:00I think I have experienced most of these elements ...I think I have experienced most of these elements (some to much lesser extent than others) but what I retain the most in all this is the idea that gender is largely in the mind. Our behavior becomes erratic and schizophrenic when we attempt to suppress instincts which are natural and likely inherited at birth (the mechanism by which this happens is not known).<br /><br />Suppression and guilt causes suffering but when we allow ourselves to experience our feelings fully only then can we be healed. Again the litmus test should be: does my behavior cause harm to me or to others? If you can answer no to both of those questions then you are on your way to mental wellness around this issue.<br /><br />transition (meaning either male or female) need not be the solution for people like us who seem to exist in a dichotomy. If you choose to pick a definite side you have made the wrong choice because that's not where your psyche wants to go. It simply wants to have the freedom to explore.<br />joannaShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07470526724889188451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-12756286433360965792013-12-06T00:04:25.924-08:002013-12-06T00:04:25.924-08:00theautogynephiiac AKA wxhluyp has now been banned ...theautogynephiiac AKA wxhluyp has now been <a href="http://www.reddit.com/r/crossdreaming/comments/1s7cld/open_message_to_uwxhluyp_udrautogynephilia_etc/" rel="nofollow">banned from the reddit crossdreamer subedit as well</a>. And no, I had absolutely nothing to do with that decision.<br /><br />chronic_raptor, the editor, writes:<br /><br />"I've been putting up with your arguments for a long time now. I gave you the benefit of the doubt for 9 months and discussed things with you, on your level (which is unnecessarily pedagogical and incoherently verbose). But you don't seem interested in being a part of the crossdreaming community, but rather finding an audience for your own musings on what turns you on. You've got your blog. You're free to start your own subreddit. And until you can acknowledge a viewpoint other than your own, you can keep it out of my sub."<br /><br />I wanted you all to know, just in case some of you think I have become too restrictive as a moderator.Jack Molayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03629363646482611722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-88275905762962620542013-12-05T13:36:46.470-08:002013-12-05T13:36:46.470-08:00That's also true, but I like the idea of freed...That's also true, but I like the idea of freedom through bondage, which it is an example of, I think. In this sense freedom both from responsibility and guilt, but also from the masculine bounds. Maybe sometimes forced feminization is just forced feminization. No more, no less, though. <br /><br />As being enamored with the Greeks, I think that Hegel would appreciate the gender dialectic of the crossdreamer. The Greeks held androgyny up as an ideal. <br /><br />It all comes back to Aristotle though (for me, at least), his dialectic being the process by which we arrive at the golden mean, or the middle between polls. <br /><br />Though he was also influenced by Buddhist philosophy, and the doctrine of non-duality -- Nietzsche also makes use of this insight, that opposites are actually the same thing, and define one and other. <br /><br />Of course, for Hegel, it would be our society itself that produces crossdreamers. The individual only being capable of being viewed in relation to their society. <br /><br />As I said with dysphoria and euphoria being two sides of the same coin, the feeling of a struggle is generated by a perceived conflict (however real) between the individual and their society. <br /><br />I think though, ultimately Hegel would suggest that we cannot have one without the other, and without being able to bring the two together (the individual, and the collective), without destroying either, that things will be unhealthy at both ends. <br /><br />To ramble nonsensically on Hegel for a bit.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00381702883992271891noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-37230673981828363262013-12-05T13:29:21.215-08:002013-12-05T13:29:21.215-08:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00381702883992271891noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-62549087021842617422013-12-05T12:03:58.772-08:002013-12-05T12:03:58.772-08:00Mitchell, I see that the forced in forced feminiza...Mitchell, I see that the forced in forced feminization allows you to interpret self-protection from the blame, yet regardless you surely must also know that forced feminization in merely a popular theme amongst general masochistic femininity, with nothing more, nothing less.<br /><br />What would Hegel have to say about dysphoria or a dialectic of crossdream stimulation?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09372425396898799943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-74683218625451421472013-12-05T06:27:41.606-08:002013-12-05T06:27:41.606-08:00And I who am such a nice guy ;)And I who am such a nice guy ;)Jack Molayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03629363646482611722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-21890681790602152732013-12-05T03:59:03.379-08:002013-12-05T03:59:03.379-08:00@Mitchell
"Lol... feel bad for you Jack... a...@Mitchell<br /><br />"Lol... feel bad for you Jack... at least you have readers! :D"<br /><br />Yes and some are extremely frustrated.joannaShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07470526724889188451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-17199986142428277922013-12-04T23:49:13.734-08:002013-12-04T23:49:13.734-08:00@Mitchell,
I have never heard anyone write about ...@Mitchell,<br /><br />I have never heard anyone write about the possible transgender nature of Nietzsche, but until the 1980s people didn't write much about Hemingway's gender variance either. We have a tendency of taking the macho facade at face value.<br /><br />There have been, as you point out <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2002/07/06/books/is-there-a-gay-basis-to-nietzsche-s-ideas.html?pagewanted=all&src=pm" rel="nofollow">arguments about him being gay.</a><br /><br />If Nietzsche's writing on the macho Übermensch was a crossdreamer's hypercorrection, history becomes ironic beyond belief. Not only did he develop a philosophy that has been used and misused to persecute transgender; he also developed a way of thinking that can be used to liberate them.Jack Molayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03629363646482611722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-66888623065466156462013-12-04T23:38:45.519-08:002013-12-04T23:38:45.519-08:00@Mitchell
"Another good addition. I don'...@Mitchell<br /><br />"Another good addition. I don't really see anything descriptive of me in this one. These seem to focus around the dysphoric in various forms. "<br /><br />Yes, these entries were more on the dysphoric side, although many of the are neutral (euphoria, forced feminization, girlfag, guydyke, male lesbian). Don't worry, though, there will be more on the non-dysphoric side in later entries.<br /><br />That being said, I am more likely to come up with concepts relevant to my own dysphoric background. Could you come up with a couple of terms that describes your life in a better way?Jack Molayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03629363646482611722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-66582822253732399192013-12-04T13:16:21.692-08:002013-12-04T13:16:21.692-08:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Reaity Checkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13837911431745318620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-86133923675776195012013-12-04T06:18:10.599-08:002013-12-04T06:18:10.599-08:00No, theautogynephiliac, I am not deleting your mes...No, theautogynephiliac, I am not deleting your messages because these particular comments are in violation of the code of conduct. <br /><br />I am deleting <i>all</i> comments made by you, because you -- as a person -- is banned from posting here. <br /><br />That ban was implemented after a long series of violations of the code of conduct, both here and over at Crossdream Life.<br /><br />You are not welcome here! It is as simple as that. Stay away!Jack Molayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03629363646482611722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-67956587468284392082013-12-04T05:52:49.978-08:002013-12-04T05:52:49.978-08:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.theautogynephiliachttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01825700722338875399noreply@blogger.com