tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post7737746874994990393..comments2024-02-25T22:43:04.662-08:00Comments on Crossdreamers: A survey of crossdressersSally Molayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02015510914816971645noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-37582338434818133862018-04-17T20:06:50.213-07:002018-04-17T20:06:50.213-07:00A good description is that it's like an itch y...A good description is that it's like an itch you can scratch in no other way. One gets all stressed out (really, unbelievably nervous) and the dressing brings a calmness that you can get in no other way.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-4879634163902052292018-01-03T05:26:28.514-08:002018-01-03T05:26:28.514-08:00@anonymous:
So you would say that it is the reali...@anonymous:<br /><br />So you would say that it is the realization of opportunity that made you realize that you are bi-curious? Or was it caused by overcoming a sense of shame associated with being with men?Jack Molayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03629363646482611722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-19782573364340911632018-01-01T00:03:20.415-08:002018-01-01T00:03:20.415-08:00Cross-dressing in the privacy of my home did not h...Cross-dressing in the privacy of my home did not have any effect on my sexuality but after I started going to clubs and men became interested in me I slowly became bi-curious. Eventually I was able to overcome my inhibitions and experiment with masculine men. Presently I only date men,have absolutely no romantic interest in women and as a submissive transvestite couldn't be happier .Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-39382093925560281612017-11-19T14:42:43.311-08:002017-11-19T14:42:43.311-08:00Hi, be aware though how this might make it seem li...Hi, be aware though how this might make it seem like you see being female as inherently passive, but that's a social gender role to a big extent.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-77677098797397497992016-10-11T00:29:52.034-07:002016-10-11T00:29:52.034-07:00Take a look at this post, which my wife wrote afte...Take a look at this post, which my wife wrote after she found out about my "other side":<br /><br /><a href="http://www.crossdreamers.com/2015/08/resources-for-partners-of-transgender.html" rel="nofollow">Resources for Partners of Transgender People</a><br /><br />You may also write her at sally.molay@gmail.com.Jack Molayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03629363646482611722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-33784908568212917182016-10-10T20:48:01.714-07:002016-10-10T20:48:01.714-07:00I learned of my husbands cross dressing yesterday....I learned of my husbands cross dressing yesterday. I'm shaken more from the secretive nature and lies then of the act itself. <br />I'm trying to educate myself to better understand. I would love to find a group of supportive spouses to help me. Where do I look?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-60770712511236779502016-03-10T05:52:38.695-08:002016-03-10T05:52:38.695-08:00You have come to the right place. If you want to g...You have come to the right place. If you want to get a general feel for the debate on what drives a crossdresser or a crossdreamer, <a href="http://www.crossdreamers.com/2008/01/readers-guide-to-confessions-of.html" rel="nofollow">you can explore the resource section of this site.</a><br /><br />I am not a crossdresser myself, but it is pretty clear to me that crossdressing is a way for a person to express a side of his or her psyche. This part of the crossdresser's personality is not "imaginary", "a delusion" or "a mere fetish". It demands an outlet because it is real. If it is denied an outlet he or she suffers from it.<br /><br />All crossdressers are "transgender", in the sense of being gender variant, but not all are gender dysphoric or transsexual. Most crossdressers seem to identify with the gender they were assigned at birth. Their gender identity is ultimately something they will have to find out for themselves.<br /><br />Many partners find that they can integrate this part of their lover's life into their shared life, but I would guess that the most important thing for your fiance right now is that you do not dismiss this part of him or condemn him for it. <br /><br />Sympathy and acceptance can do miracles for a transgender persons' self-esteem and quality of life. The shame you are referring to is caused by a culture that is often unforgiving when it comes to any kind of femininity in men. I love the fact that you are trying to understand him. Thank you for doing that!<br /><br />Expressing understanding and acceptance does not not mean that you have to make his crossdressing a part of your sex life or that you <i>have to</i> become actively involved in this part of his life. Your needs and your boundaries have to be respected to. <br /><br />One more thing: If you suspect that your fiance is severely gender dysphoric, it might help if he gets some kind of professional help. Gender dysphoria can be a heavy burden, indeed, and it will affect both of you.<br />Jack Molayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03629363646482611722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-51435627308615812232016-03-10T02:34:11.068-08:002016-03-10T02:34:11.068-08:00I recently found out my fiance enjoys crossdressin...I recently found out my fiance enjoys crossdressing. Im having a hard time understanding what hes going through. He says he feels ashamed after doing it but it helps him release stress. I need help understanding what hes going through and how to handle it better.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-67379168347505611632016-03-01T23:39:22.735-08:002016-03-01T23:39:22.735-08:00@Anonymous
Thank you for sharing this!
Do you be...@Anonymous<br /><br />Thank you for sharing this!<br /><br />Do you believe that this sexual orientation had been there all along and that you had repressed it, or do you think your orientation actually changed? If I read you correctly it seems as if you believe crossdressing caused the change.Jack Molayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03629363646482611722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-16438051146878484492016-03-01T01:35:12.963-08:002016-03-01T01:35:12.963-08:00I am a cross dresser that went from full on hetero...I am a cross dresser that went from full on heterosexual to full on feminine homosexual. Through cross dressing I found what I enjoy most, playing the passive female role. I dress to relax, escape, and for attention, but mostly mostly because sex as a girl is what turns me on. I no longer am aroused by women and only find male genitalia exciting. The thought of being dressed and adored by men is what drives me sexually. I don't know, but for me, cross dressing did alter who I was sexually to who I am now. There's nothing better.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-46981160434159077552016-01-20T00:46:56.390-08:002016-01-20T00:46:56.390-08:00The more I learn about this, the more convinced I ...The more I learn about this, the more convinced I am that such feelings are not rare at all, regardless of what gender you were assigned at birth. You are definitely not alone!Jack Molayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03629363646482611722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-80795335852750554562016-01-19T12:32:33.584-08:002016-01-19T12:32:33.584-08:00I've longed to be active in some sort of surve...I've longed to be active in some sort of survey that acknowledged cross dressers and the fact that they are completely normal people. I am amazed myself to see so many things that are common to me and my cross dressing behaviors . Growing up I could gave sworn I was the only one in the world with such a desire to dress in woman's clothing. Nearly forty years have passed and every day I dress. And not one time did I not feel completely happy in heels and dress. Though I've been closeted I do wish very.much one day I.could get out and expressly.feminine side. Basically Im enthused to see that others are comitted to understanding what makes us tick. Thank youmehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03229768630231844262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-29955323261898199772015-12-14T15:51:55.077-08:002015-12-14T15:51:55.077-08:00Greetings Jack.
I know this is an old post you ha...Greetings Jack.<br /><br />I know this is an old post you have there. But I must say I did thorougly enjoy your internal dialogue with your inner woman who seem to make more sense than both you and me put together. <br /><br />Wonder if I may have the same thing inside of me, trying to get out and make some sense in me as well.<br /><br />Now!<br /><br />I was wondering if you have a contact email address. I have questions. And I prefer to get them answered before any publication. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-39327131128708269492014-05-16T15:34:49.390-07:002014-05-16T15:34:49.390-07:00I am a CD and dress up often during the week 5 he&...I am a CD and dress up often during the week 5 he's a day and most of the weekend.I own more female clothing than male clothing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-450844876650528422011-01-06T07:20:36.997-08:002011-01-06T07:20:36.997-08:00Good point, which only proves how vigilant we have...Good point, which only proves how vigilant we have to be when making use of science.Jack Molayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03629363646482611722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-35380615315892035552011-01-05T05:50:53.862-08:002011-01-05T05:50:53.862-08:00Statistics always run the danger of giving the wro...Statistics always run the danger of giving the wrong answer. For instance, looking at the figures above one would conclude that, since not even half of the crossdreamers in this research are interested in hormone treatment, the majority of crossdreamers would not wish to have a more feminine appearance permanently. However, that may not be the case. Talking for myself, if asked I would also say that I´m not interested in hormone treatment. But I would be, if this were possible without medical risks and without losing the ability to father children. So my answer would reveal more about my fears for unwanted consequences than the desire for the wanted consequence: having a feminine body, yet at the same time having a fully functioning penis and perfect fertility.A.M.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-72868998922475703742010-02-08T00:49:27.942-08:002010-02-08T00:49:27.942-08:00Thank you for doing the job with the tables, Colin...Thank you for doing the job with the tables, Colin. There is much to be said about this study and I will come back to it later on.Jack Molayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03629363646482611722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-22492622835538927412010-02-08T00:48:20.065-08:002010-02-08T00:48:20.065-08:00Thanks for the link! I have added it to the resour...Thanks for the link! I have added it to the resource section.<br /><br />JackJack Molayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03629363646482611722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-54777498124089075072010-02-08T00:07:30.604-08:002010-02-08T00:07:30.604-08:00I'm glad you posted the tables ! As a crossdr...I'm glad you posted the tables ! As a crossdresser / AGP they helped me figure out what was best for me, which was basically find an accepting partner.<br />-ColinAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-3441837809865523162010-02-07T18:05:13.318-08:002010-02-07T18:05:13.318-08:00Barb Hudson has started a web page for TS/TV/Any V...Barb Hudson has started a web page for TS/TV/Any Variation at:<br /><br />http://transboutique.com/<br /><br />WillowWillowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12015686628019231456noreply@blogger.com