tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post8346562708433678851..comments2024-03-26T16:19:11.382-07:00Comments on Crossdreamers: Anonymous 18 and autogynephiliaSally Molayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02015510914816971645noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-85367136324529358312013-01-03T18:02:55.203-08:002013-01-03T18:02:55.203-08:00You sound exactly like me. THANKS! thought i was t...You sound exactly like me. THANKS! thought i was the freak of freaks until a few years ago when i found out about autogyn. you can be more than one "category". like i'm autogyn, trans AND straight. well OK then. at age 2 or 3 did you feel "like" your mom and "different" than your dad? did boy stuff seem dumb, but girl stuff just wasn't you either? then at puberty did the WONDER of WOMAN blow you away, even more than it did to the regular guy, because you were perceiving so much more about these girls? perhaps your experience in an actual sexual relationship with a woman will turn out like mine - once i'm in it, the need to fantasize just goes away, all by itself, so it doesn't end up being an issue at all. i always mention being "part woman" but am too uncomfortable telling them about the fantasy - you can tell if they'll understand or not. i know my female self is still there, however, because as soon as the relationship ends it comes back. like she was lying there dormant the whole time, on holiday until there was a place for her again. I tend to unconciously choose partners w/traits that won't work out, so it won't be permanent and i can go back and forth. a dilemma. I can't integrate my "selves" - never been attracted to men in real life, in fact the real-life male me disapproves of the female fantasy me, who is totally into the idea of MEN for SEX. as time went on, it became just like 2 separate people in there, not different sides of the same person. a quagmire. i just got used to the conflict. if i were to transition it'd be the same problem in reverse, but w/ loads of new problems too. you are SPECIAL, no doubt you can see things from the female perspective AND the male's - it's a gift. look up "2-spirit" - some cultures revere us, like many native american tribes. the true shaman is a man with a woman inside, seen to have a unique healing touch. Fantasy is an escape, at least ours is TOTAL, INTENSE and FUN. and only self-destructive if we can't learn to accept it. take your time - the more you can see yourself for what you really are, the more you CAN see, and the more valuable it all becomes. precious. ignore what society says, what do they know? they don't even have a decent label selection. GOOD LUCK!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-66491028384332435562012-11-27T13:55:08.883-08:002012-11-27T13:55:08.883-08:00Thank you, Jack.
All the best!Thank you, Jack.<br />All the best!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09273905611748020119noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-4751718499772010502012-11-26T07:28:45.801-08:002012-11-26T07:28:45.801-08:00@Sam Z
I will let him know that you have posted t...@Sam Z<br /><br />I will let him know that you have posted this comment.<br /><br />JackJack Molayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03629363646482611722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-59718860451066750542012-11-25T14:19:38.504-08:002012-11-25T14:19:38.504-08:00Hey Anonymous 18.
I'm pretty much feeling con...Hey Anonymous 18.<br /><br />I'm pretty much feeling content being me nowadays but a few years ago i was just as scared as you are. I would too rather kill myself than become a female but i like the sexual fantasy of being a feminine woman or shemale.<br /><br />"Is there any way i can stop having these fantasies because th very idea of being an autogynephiliac scares me. I just dont want anything to do with it. Please help me."<br /><br />I would like to be in touch with you<br />and yes i know, i too would rather be completely straight than be 50/50. It is rough having these fantasies but i know you will find a midway path which satisfies you without you changing the way you are comfortable with right now.<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09273905611748020119noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-71669744468408959832012-02-27T01:36:45.627-08:002012-02-27T01:36:45.627-08:00@Anonymous
I wish I could give you a simple cure,...@Anonymous<br /><br />I wish I could give you a simple cure, but I am afraid there is no cure for crossdreaming. The condition can be very scary, but many crossdreamers manage to handle it in their day to day lives. Many also report that getting to know their "inner woman" (or "man" in the case of female to male crossdreamers) have made their lives better and richer.<br /><br />If you feel a lot of anxiety, depression and/or shame about this, please find a sexologist or a psychologist with experience in transgender conditions and talk to him or her. You need to give this part of you a voice and get "her" out in the open. The whole of you needs to be seen and reaffirmed by another human being. <br /><br />There is fundamentally nothing wrong with you. You are just different, and outside the norm as that norm is defined by society. The fact is that there are millions of us all over the world. You are not alone.<br /><br />Note also that there are many places to meet online for crossdreamers. Forums like <a href="http://rachelshaven.com" rel="nofollow">Rachel's Haven</a> explore the erotic side of crossdreaming. <a href="http://www.crossdreamlife.com" rel="nofollow">Crossdream Life</a> is for discussions about how to handle crossdreaming in real life. If you are a crossdresser, there are also societies where crossdressers meet and discuss their inner woman.Jack Molayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03629363646482611722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-54912725807187281012012-02-26T03:50:54.082-08:002012-02-26T03:50:54.082-08:00Is there any way i can stop having these fantasies...Is there any way i can stop having these fantasies because th very idea of being an autogynephiliac scares me. I just dont want anything to do with it. Please help meAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-58892714108635438792010-09-15T23:15:19.846-07:002010-09-15T23:15:19.846-07:00" .. SL is wonderful, and I find myself spend..." .. SL is wonderful, and I find myself spending way too much time on it, with a feeling of giddiness that is hard to explain."<br /><br />I guess that dizziness is the feeling your inner woman has when she finally gets the chance to live her life :-)Jack Molayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03629363646482611722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-32361376843751476332010-09-15T19:15:48.973-07:002010-09-15T19:15:48.973-07:00Pardon the late addition, but I only now stumbled ...Pardon the late addition, but I only now stumbled across this blog. I am a 35-year-old happily married man who has had autogynephilia since I was a teen. Like Anonymous18, I've always been a little afraid that my feelings meant that I was "supposed" to be transgender, even though I am content to be male and hate the thought of surgery. If I could wave a wand and become female, I would, but I'd also change back frequently too. I don't feel like a "woman trapped in a man's body", but like someone with masculine and feminine aspects which both like to see the light of day from time to time.<br /><br />Since A18 is worried about having sex with women, I would say that while I fantasize exclusively about being female when I masturbate, I have no problem taking the male role in actual sex. Sex is different from masturbation, so don't worry too much about that yet. (Your mileage may vary, of course.)<br /><br />I also recommend Second Life, which I just joined as a female. I read somewhere that non-transsexual autogynephiles might have a strong "inner woman", and I thought it would be good to let her out to play in some non-sexual context. I'm too masculine in appearance to pass in real life, but SL is wonderful, and I find myself spending way too much time on it, with a feeling of giddiness that is hard to explain.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-48427491278034834152010-06-09T14:23:16.071-07:002010-06-09T14:23:16.071-07:00@anonymous
"I have successful sex life and g...@anonymous<br /><br />"I have successful sex life and great marriage with my wife of 10 years."<br /><br />Good for you!<br /><br />And thank you for telling us your story. I believe it is important that crossdreamers know that this is possible and that there are ways of living out this side of yourself.<br /><br />Cudos to your wife!Jack Molayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03629363646482611722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-18679975747785910522010-06-08T00:42:23.846-07:002010-06-08T00:42:23.846-07:00I have successful sex life and great marriage with...I have successful sex life and great marriage with my wife of 10 years. While I am unable to "perform" in a typical male way my wife uses dildos and her fingers to stroke the underside of my genitals where I imagine a vagina is and she will suck on and play with my nipples. She will also put make-up on me and buys me female clothing, though I rarely wear it She will also role play verbally and tell me how beautiful I am and generally treat me as a she. Then I reciprocate. My wife says we have "basically a lesbian relationship" although I live as a successful male; boss and father. Non of our friends or anyone outside of our relationship know. I had a similar relationship to my ex-girlfriend. It's very important to tell your potential significant other very early on in your relationship. I told my wife on our second date. This can be terrifying but is better than the alternatives. I get to live a very positive life and although I still have this secret, I am satisfied and happy overall.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-50503480716440656722010-03-30T12:42:59.842-07:002010-03-30T12:42:59.842-07:00What i meant about "lost interest in woman&qu...What i meant about "lost interest in woman" is that i don't feel like having a relationship with a female,don't get me wrong here i'm not interested in man.So it's like i want to live my life single,it's like i won't get lonely even if i'm alone,infact i prefer being alone.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13655619575678297664noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-29672173018051053352010-03-29T23:57:16.799-07:002010-03-29T23:57:16.799-07:00Hello Kanzaki,
Well, you can talk about it here. ...Hello Kanzaki,<br /><br />Well, you can talk about it here. What do you think made you "lose interest" in women?Jack Molayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03629363646482611722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-28252002614767889282010-03-29T13:10:10.718-07:002010-03-29T13:10:10.718-07:00Im a 17 year old male,i have Autogynephilia even s...Im a 17 year old male,i have Autogynephilia even since i was a child.When i was around 7-8 years old i watch anime and fantasize myself as the female character but at that time i dont know what is sex and so on,only until im 13 when school gave sex education.I always play a female character in game,but i never told anyone about my discorder.Recently i lost interest in real woman,i rather fantasize.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13655619575678297664noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-28599706579747491132009-11-26T08:25:29.070-08:002009-11-26T08:25:29.070-08:00For Anonymous 18 (and us autogynephiliacs in gener...For Anonymous 18 (and us autogynephiliacs in general), I really recommend spending some time in Second Life.<br /><br />It's a chance to try on a female identity, to visually express our female form, and to live and love as a woman.<br /><br />There are a *lot* of us, and some fairly active groups - but the culture of "don't ask, don't tell" about RL is pretty supportive of us, in most places.<br /><br />For me, and a number of friends, and a lot of us in general, it's a chance to really live our female selves, and to explore what we're really attracted to in safety.<br /><br />The SL Flickr groups can give a good sense of what it's like, and anyone from here who does come in, please feel free to drop me an IM - Kaseido Quandry in SLKaseidohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05024232841287968552noreply@blogger.com