tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post1172376182756893959..comments2024-03-26T16:19:11.382-07:00Comments on Crossdreamers: Crossdreaming : A Push Towards a Self Authoring JourneySally Molayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02015510914816971645noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-8373346949310655522013-09-23T00:18:08.744-07:002013-09-23T00:18:08.744-07:00@Kyotis
Seeing that there are others out there sh...@Kyotis<br /><br />Seeing that there are others out there sharing your same challenges often help. But do not hesitate to contact me at jack.molay@gmail.com<br /><br />JackJack Molayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03629363646482611722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-15927129315883896522013-09-20T08:49:00.516-07:002013-09-20T08:49:00.516-07:00I would like to thank you for the post and I would...I would like to thank you for the post and I would like to wish you and everyone luck no their journey. I'm hopeful and feel a bit better now, thanks.Kyotishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05465614958416042437noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-69421314108974598702013-08-30T00:29:51.449-07:002013-08-30T00:29:51.449-07:00One thing I think is particularly important in thi...One thing I think is particularly important in this post, is the focus on (1) meaning and (2) self acceptance.<br /><br />I strongly believe meaning, in some sense of the word, is a requisite for mental health. If there are no words for what we experience, no story or narrative to put our experience into context, the experience may become unbearable.<br /><br />In this respect crossdreaming is particularly tricky, as it one important driver is sexual desire, and sexual desire is one of the most powerful psychological forces of the human mind and body. Any attempt at controlling this force by denial or suppression will therefore backfire.<br /><br />In many countires there is now a positive narrative for homosexuality, and gays and lesbians may hang on to that narrative when exploring their own lives and their place in the world. But there is no such narrative for crossdreamers. <br /><br />This is why our little online community becomes so important. Finding others struggling with the same issues is of tremendous help, as learning to know others helps us understand ourselves.<br /><br />The point is not for this community to establish a final truth about what crossdreaming <i>is</i> or is <i>caused by</i>. That way leads only to dogmatism and fragmentation. <br /><br />I certainly do not expect all crossdreamers to agree with what I believe about this. <br /><br />Another important part of Janikest's argument, is -- I believe -- how integrating crossdreaming into your own life story (self authoring), many lead to self acceptance. It is very hard to accept the acceptance of others if you do not accept yourself. <br />Jack Molayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03629363646482611722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-49523933714024696982013-08-26T10:53:23.047-07:002013-08-26T10:53:23.047-07:00Hi Janikest, I have issues with a few points.
I a...Hi Janikest, I have issues with a few points.<br /><br />I agree in that most people who are aroused by unusual things (such as this) go through a phase of uncomfortable cognitive dissonance. But whilst you don't elucidate the objects of arousal & dissonance, and even after acknowledging "casual(?)" fetishists, you jump to positing what appears to be a universalization of the transition dilemma, let alone of the dysphoric psychology.theautogynephiliachttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01825700722338875399noreply@blogger.com