tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post449840766434940624..comments2024-03-26T16:19:11.382-07:00Comments on Crossdreamers: Trans woman speaks out about crossdreaming and transitioningSally Molayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02015510914816971645noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-81816971324547469182013-12-22T17:08:46.975-08:002013-12-22T17:08:46.975-08:00Great post. I've been caught in this loop of a...Great post. I've been caught in this loop of asking exactly the same questions for 20 years already, wondering if there's going to be some kind of resolution. These same questions prompted me to see a therapist, and after gaining the confidence to explore this just like transtwin describes am I beginning to break the loop and understand more about what it means for me.Artemissyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14262867012223091330noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-82115123194158778512013-12-16T04:52:01.033-08:002013-12-16T04:52:01.033-08:00I won't open up a can of worms by giving a ful...I won't open up a can of worms by giving a full critique of Kristin/Transwin's comments. I'll just make four observations:<br /><br />1. Kristin is undoubtedly sincere in her desire to help people.<br /><br />2. While instructing her readers to find their own answers and not be influenced by others, she is seeking to influence them in a particular direction - transitioning. <br /><br />3. I am glad that Jack addressed Kristin's comments to gender dysphoric crossdreamers. Kristin herself makes no such distinction, she addresses everyone with a crossdreaming 'type of sexuality'.<br /><br />4. I think Kristin presents non-transitioning crossdreamers very negatively, in a way that might put readers off joining the online crossdreaming community.<br /><br /><br />Deborah xx Deborah Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17251775114982350453noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-9400070542652222392013-12-16T04:15:56.867-08:002013-12-16T04:15:56.867-08:00Those are the best questions I've heard yet. ...Those are the best questions I've heard yet. It has a very similiar tone to the type of things that tony robbins says if you read his books. He has this technique where he asks you to imagine working the same job in 10 years, how does that make you feel. If you feel miserable, you need to make a change now so that in 10 years you'll be at that dream job. Questions like this aren't going to change your mind necessarily, but it might make you realize that life is short and YOLO so if you really want something, you need to make action to make that happen.tg_captionerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15015206450712314680noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-92132054413851480502013-12-15T14:36:43.801-08:002013-12-15T14:36:43.801-08:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Reaity Checkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13837911431745318620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-45334394732600332882013-12-14T13:06:06.837-08:002013-12-14T13:06:06.837-08:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Reaity Checkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13837911431745318620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-36832559099101131782013-12-13T15:26:03.885-08:002013-12-13T15:26:03.885-08:00Those are great questions for anyone who has awkwa...Those are great questions for anyone who has awkward or unconventional feelings. I think at some point I'm going to have to sit down and give those questions some real thought.Flexorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00774522146114639059noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-3787391669736514132013-12-13T04:26:16.059-08:002013-12-13T04:26:16.059-08:00"•What are my reasons for hiding this side of..."•What are my reasons for hiding this side of myself from others? Do I find myself modifying my truths and doing my best to be what others want me to be instead of what I want to be myself?"<br /><br />This one hits me the hardest but with the commitments I have made in my life and given my age I don't think the risk for me would be worth it. My dysphoria is strong but not strong enough to risk gambling what I have built over a lifetime. This is why I have had to find a compromise solution that allows me to stay mentally healthy and happy without needing to modify my body.<br /><br />The hard part of course is needing to hide a part of yourself from those you love. This is why being in that grey in between area is so challenging.joannaShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07470526724889188451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-44071041612815533112013-12-13T04:05:32.613-08:002013-12-13T04:05:32.613-08:00This is the crux of the entire issue...YOU are the...This is the crux of the entire issue...YOU are the only person who knows what is right for you. It does not matter what Blanchard or Benjamin say; the answer is yours and yours alone. There is no litmus test to pass other than understanding what will allow you to live your life with mental balance. If you transition and you are happier after having done so then you have done the right thing. The opposite is also true.<br /><br />Once you find a mental peace regarding your management and/or resolution to your dysphoria then you will know you have arrived. joanna Santoshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16722222181799879120noreply@blogger.com