tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post4983146854692328674..comments2024-03-26T16:19:11.382-07:00Comments on Crossdreamers: On crossdreaming lesbians and sexy trans womenSally Molayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02015510914816971645noreply@blogger.comBlogger84125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-31656008809661892952018-09-21T01:32:06.379-07:002018-09-21T01:32:06.379-07:00Thorin's comments have been deleted on their r...Thorin's comments have been deleted on their request.Jack Molayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03629363646482611722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-65205422481694428672014-06-05T01:12:40.631-07:002014-06-05T01:12:40.631-07:00New video on Cassidy here!<a href="http://lightbox.time.com/2014/05/29/meet-transgender-america/?iid=lb-gal-viewagn#1" rel="nofollow">New video on Cassidy here!</a><br />Jack Molayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03629363646482611722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-34414333409170429892013-11-27T13:00:29.640-08:002013-11-27T13:00:29.640-08:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.A. Quiet Voicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06419464386447411790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-91932036095313809082013-11-27T10:40:53.804-08:002013-11-27T10:40:53.804-08:00In her desperate desires for someone to support he...In her desperate desires for someone to support her cause, it appears that she has been born again. I guess we're in for a flood of religious hogwash.<br /><br />@Thorin, be very careful around AQV. She will try to twist your words to fit her personal needs. And when you try to straighten it out she will accuse you of the most awful things. She has done that to almost almost everyone here. As you've already seen she took part of your envy essay out of context to try to further her cause here.<br /><br />LindsayLindsayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06742298653334993493noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-17790835288142655652013-11-27T10:19:12.217-08:002013-11-27T10:19:12.217-08:00@Thorin
I don't think you understand: its the...@Thorin<br /><br />I don't think you understand: its the non repentant crossdressers and crossdreamers she's after so you'll be fine. At least you'll be spared the flurry of toxic postings.<br /><br />If you do follow this blog and read the comments you will by now understand why Jack is a target. <br /><br />Be well...joannaShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07470526724889188451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-56382770013428403262013-11-27T09:48:54.641-08:002013-11-27T09:48:54.641-08:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.A. Quiet Voicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06419464386447411790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-62875235418720944112013-11-27T09:47:09.422-08:002013-11-27T09:47:09.422-08:00@Thorin
" Again, I think it would be wise to...@Thorin<br /><br />" Again, I think it would be wise to stop trying when they obviously don't want to hear from you. Even if you are right, it's best to only talk to those who want to listen, instead of trying to force people to listen."<br /><br />You are indeed a very wise man whose advice will unfortunately not be heeded...joannaShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07470526724889188451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-48003814574327437722013-11-27T09:43:29.433-08:002013-11-27T09:43:29.433-08:00@jack
"I do not think you understand who you...@jack<br /><br />"I do not think you understand who you are inviting into your home"<br /><br />an understatement if there ever was one. But I am sure he won't mind.... joannaShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07470526724889188451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-43848701961674495152013-11-27T08:32:38.922-08:002013-11-27T08:32:38.922-08:00@Thorin
I do not think you understand who you are...@Thorin<br /><br />I do not think you understand who you are inviting into your home. This one is nothing like Jesus, I am afraid. Be very, very careful!Jack Molayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03629363646482611722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-53598084883003200302013-11-26T21:07:16.348-08:002013-11-26T21:07:16.348-08:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Thorin25https://www.blogger.com/profile/14491694029264437630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-91144345649095908982013-11-26T18:27:34.193-08:002013-11-26T18:27:34.193-08:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.A. Quiet Voicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06419464386447411790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-41509888289031515852013-11-26T12:27:23.232-08:002013-11-26T12:27:23.232-08:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Thorin25https://www.blogger.com/profile/14491694029264437630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-86330311480336442112013-11-26T12:27:11.829-08:002013-11-26T12:27:11.829-08:00This comment has been removed by the author.Thorin25https://www.blogger.com/profile/14491694029264437630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-34082120181433140602013-11-26T12:25:16.986-08:002013-11-26T12:25:16.986-08:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Thorin25https://www.blogger.com/profile/14491694029264437630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-54867908577064526492013-11-26T04:17:10.318-08:002013-11-26T04:17:10.318-08:00@Thorin
"For example, I think it is okay for...@Thorin<br /><br />"For example, I think it is okay for men to desire being able to be expressive and sensitive. But I would say the answer then would lie not in crossdressing, or envying women, but learning how to be expressive and sensitive as men. Thus not envying, but integrating those things into our identity as men"<br /><br />Part of the problem here is that truly dysphoric people (ie HBS types IV, V and VI) would argue that they are not crossdressing but merely reflecting who they are inside. If for example you fit into a type I or II you primarily identify as a male who enjoys crossdressing and is its perhaps more rooted in fun or vice. Even so I see nothing wrong with it if it does not run your life. So in this case you might be right to say that you can diminish or even eliminate your crossdressing in order to make your life more whole by incorporating those elements you might "envy" into more sensitive<br />male.<br /><br />Types III through VI have a much stronger level of dysphoria ranging from a strong need to crossdress to outright transition. We do not know the cause of this condition but we know it exists and its supremely powerful. Why in the world would anyone ask for it? it is clear that it is not a whim nor an elective activity.<br /><br />My own dysphoria places me in the type III or IV which makes me, according to the Benjamin scale, either a true transvestite or a borderline transsexual. Neither I cureable nor do they respond to psychotherapy so you left with 2 choices:<br /><br />1) wallow in guilt, shame and self hatred for something you cannot change anyway<br />2) espouse who you are and live without fear and make the best of it knowing that you must live with this.<br /><br />I have opted for latter.<br /><br />If you are either a type I or II (which I have a strong suspicion you are) consider yourself fortunate as many others here are not.<br /><br />Peace<br />joannaShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07470526724889188451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-49107957492804650212013-11-26T03:29:20.096-08:002013-11-26T03:29:20.096-08:00@Thorin
The envy argument you use is an interesti...@Thorin<br /><br />The envy argument you use is an interesting one but one which I have never experienced myself. I do not consider my condition rooted in envy but rather with an association with the feminine that goes back to as long as I can remember. I did not start dressing at 12 but more like 3 or 4 years old. I was doing so naturally and without any guilt or shame. That sham was instilled in me much later as I was told that little boys do not do these things. I then proceeded to accommodate my parents and never do dress again.<br /><br />I am a devout Christian and yet have finally come to realize that God does not make junk and my behaviour is not rooted in sin because I am not hurting anyone. In fact I am a happier person now because I can allow myself the dignity of being myself and have found a new lease on life by doing so. The results have been nothing short of dramatic. I have a partner and children who do not see it yet know that I do it and love me just as much and I can now love them even more in return because I am happy with who I am.<br /><br />If God wants me to stop crossdressing why did he put those feelings there in the first place. Because I can tell you that no one has tried harder to stop than I and I ended up with a stroke 5 years ago because of it.<br /><br />So while I do appreciate your point of view and am glad that your formula works for you, the idea of associating crossdressing with sinning is not immediately obvious to me in the least. Thinking that way made me miserable for almost 50 years and I would never go back to that.<br /><br />As far as our crackpot goes, she is just frustrated that this website hits home with some very relevant and frank discussion on truths she would rather not acknowledge. The fact that Jack draws an intelligent and well read audience is even more galling for her so she resorts to using your site and any other as as copy and paste fodder to inundate this place with anything that will degrade those who come here.<br /><br />Its unfortunate that your site was the latest target.joannaShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07470526724889188451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-81804071860253409102013-11-26T00:19:54.426-08:002013-11-26T00:19:54.426-08:00@Thorin,
If you have found peace with your crossd...@Thorin,<br /><br />If you have found peace with your crossdressing, I apologize. <br /><br />I read your blog, and I did -- in good faith -- interpret it as a discussion on how to cope with strong crossdreaming urges. <br /><br />The frequent reference to bible verses that may help you in your coping, led me to believe you were, actually, struggling. But maybe you are addressing others who have not manage to handle their fantasies yet instead.<br /><br />I am a Christian myself, but is -- as you probably have notices -- positioned at the other end of the scale.<br /><br />I believe in a loving God, not God the Lawmaker, and believe He has made me a crossdreamer for a reason. God loves variation, and we are part of that diversity.<br /><br />I suspect this is something we will never agree on, so I am not sure there is any point in even discussing it. If we are to do that, we should probably do it over at your blog.<br /><br />What is important here, though, is that your writing has now been used actively by a transsexual woman who is using any text she can get hold of to denigrate all transgender people that do not follow her ideal of what it means to be transsexual. <br /><br />And she does this deliberately to hurt us, make us feel small, make us feel shame and guilt. <br /><br />She has been banned from this forum for this very reason, but continue to comment, hoping apparently that some of this mud will stick eventually. I can see what she is doing, and she can no longer reach me, but for others this may actually work.<br /><br />The fact that your writing is used in this way troubles me, to say the least.Jack Molayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03629363646482611722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-32165683594390196292013-11-25T19:58:56.318-08:002013-11-25T19:58:56.318-08:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.A. Quiet Voicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06419464386447411790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-91174199639844510282013-11-25T19:12:32.189-08:002013-11-25T19:12:32.189-08:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Thorin25https://www.blogger.com/profile/14491694029264437630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-79837218213376337162013-11-25T18:59:08.314-08:002013-11-25T18:59:08.314-08:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Thorin25https://www.blogger.com/profile/14491694029264437630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-23743037108056061832013-11-25T17:45:19.569-08:002013-11-25T17:45:19.569-08:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.A. Quiet Voicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06419464386447411790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-62098621606068976142013-11-25T17:37:36.574-08:002013-11-25T17:37:36.574-08:00Thorin
I would also be very careful about allying...Thorin<br /><br />I would also be very careful about allying yourself in any way with our resident crackpot. There isca plethera of venom and buffoonery posted here by her and originating from her own frustration. She cares nothing about you nor anyone else here and her intent is to simply underline and emphasize why she is so different from everyone here. The fact she continues to post here only emphasizes her problems. We should have more kathryn dunne's here...<br /><br />Once again I wish you and your family the best.joanna Santoshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16722222181799879120noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-87582210361870391662013-11-25T17:30:40.371-08:002013-11-25T17:30:40.371-08:00@Lindsay
You are right that using HBSers as a ter...@Lindsay<br /><br />You are right that using HBSers as a term showing disrespect to Harry Benjamin since he himself would agree with nothing that they espouse.<br /><br />Unfortunately the term has been used to describe the condition of transsexualism among those separatist transsexuals who consider it a medical condition and the name stuck.<br /><br />A poor choice indeed...joanna Santoshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16722222181799879120noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-67277486834747213282013-11-25T17:03:43.404-08:002013-11-25T17:03:43.404-08:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.A. Quiet Voicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06419464386447411790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-3468937414906808842013-11-25T17:02:41.908-08:002013-11-25T17:02:41.908-08:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.A. Quiet Voicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06419464386447411790noreply@blogger.com