tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post5730128131499078672..comments2024-02-25T22:43:04.662-08:00Comments on Crossdreamers: A man trapped in a woman's mindSally Molayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02015510914816971645noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-32912808341842404652017-02-16T01:30:54.627-08:002017-02-16T01:30:54.627-08:00That's my fantasy but really since I came out ...That's my fantasy but really since I came out to my wife of 20 years that I told recently2 years ago that I love wearing pantyhose mainly at times heels dress bra stuffed etc I haven't tried makeup yet I been doing the pantyhose fetish thing since I believe or recall of 5 years old. I used them mainly to master bate but as well admire how sexy I look in them (was raised with 3 sisters and a mom with a dad who did molested me which I was down for or enjoyed) no penetration though it was till I was 25 or so before my felling or fetish shall I say changed to being cd with several men while tied down forcing me as well as being gang banged but I as well was using meth. I starting using a dildo a few years later reminding you I'm 35 at this age then told spouse cause I was being accused of cheating 40 now I m still closeted besides wife knowing but I've become bicourious more than ever but discreetly at moment. I wear my hose heels skirts etc. almost daily now with dildo . I'm want a man more than ever but I'm nervous as well not sure if I want to be more man or feel more as women at times Pantyhoseluver69https://www.blogger.com/profile/00996021554156245659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-6672229523881732442017-02-16T01:12:37.767-08:002017-02-16T01:12:37.767-08:00I have become androgynous lately of the years comp...I have become androgynous lately of the years compare to a pantyhose fetish I had starting out to now wanting to be dressed and treated like a women while being sexually forced by several men Pantyhoseluver69https://www.blogger.com/profile/00996021554156245659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-891810243447107652010-09-22T23:46:45.617-07:002010-09-22T23:46:45.617-07:00@Railey
"Could this possibly mean I am andro...@Railey<br /><br />"Could this possibly mean I am androgynous bisexual Jack?"<br /><br />Bisexual, yes. Androgynous? No, unless you appear as such to others. I think we need a new language. That's what I think. The traditional terms do not capture all this heterogeneity.<br /><br />JackJack Molayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03629363646482611722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-72235738066722284842010-09-22T09:18:09.636-07:002010-09-22T09:18:09.636-07:00Could this possibly mean I am androgynous bisexual...Could this possibly mean I am androgynous bisexual Jack?Raileynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-44834275845973383202010-09-22T09:16:22.449-07:002010-09-22T09:16:22.449-07:00I think the modern thought that gender=/=sexuality...I think the modern thought that gender=/=sexuality is quite right. I am bisexual male and I can stand testimony to this. In fact, contrary to what most could ever believe, I feel more manly when I am having sex with a guy. I love the emotional and romantic bonding beween two guys and though I take the feminine role during sex with a guy,I imagine myself as a guy.<br />But with women it becomes more feminine and I turn almost into a "lipstick lesbian". I find I am emotionally connected to females as a female and emotionally connected to men as a male.Raileynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-66421683245524178832010-05-18T12:35:24.668-07:002010-05-18T12:35:24.668-07:00Jack,
I do agree with you that sexual women would ...Jack,<br />I do agree with you that sexual women would definitely have erotic fantasies of their own body. But,you see transwomen already face a lot of transphobia from mainstream society, and hence, they wish to be very much away from any aspect of sexual fantasy. Of course many of them don't have them too, as many are asexual.<br />There indeed have been many male transvestites with crossdressing being nothing more than a sexual kink. They are heterosexual males with high sex drives and have been using not only women as their sex objects but also their clothing and accessories. <br />Again, there are numerous homosexual males wear female clothing to attract men. <br />However, transsexualism is much different from both of these, and despite many media reports, people seem to confuse it with wither of the above aspects.<br />And this means the very mention of such "erotic fantasy" term reinforces the mainstream belief of transwomen being nothing more than either heterosexual fetishists or homosexual crossdressers.<br />Nothing wrong in either of the above, but the problem is that both of the above aspects would make the transwoman a man and not woman.<br />From what your story mentions, it does seem you are more than a mere fetishist, because you are womanly in more ways than one. <br />I understand that there are indeed crossdreamers who have significant gender dysphoria rather than anything of fetish. But many transwomen would still look down upon you,since you are still a man and not woman, and that too, a man with erotic fantasies. <br />It would hence take some time for both the sides to come to a close kinship. However, the fault as I said, is not of the transwomen, but of the mainstream society which chooses to accept things at face-value.Vinitanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-81559349045077827362010-05-18T00:41:47.011-07:002010-05-18T00:41:47.011-07:00@Vinita
No offense taken!
First of all: This is ...@Vinita<br /><br />No offense taken!<br /><br />First of all: This is an exploratory blog. I am presenting ideas for discussion. Since I wrote this post, I have become more and more convinced that crossdreaming (which I now feel is a better term than autogynephilia)has a biological basis. <br /><br />Not all crossdreamers (men who fantasize about having a woman's body) report forced feminization fantasies, nor do crossdressers in particular. <br /><br />In TG erotica, only a small percentage of the stories written include "sissyfication".<br /><br />As regards the pronoun: This is tricky. I always use the word "she" when referring to XY persons who identify as women. Transwomen are women. Period.<br /><br />However, this blog is just as much for biological men who remain in their male role publicly. Many of them also identify as men, although as men with a strong woman inside. <br /><br />Many of us are in between genders. This could be because we are truly <i>cross</i>gendered, or it could be because we have not able to face the fact that we are transwomen. <br /><br />Some crossdreamers/crossdressers come to the conclusion that they are, in fact, women, and chose to transition. <br /><br />As for the question of transwomen having autogynephilic fantasies: I know for certain that many of them have had such fantasies -- at least before transitioning -- because many of them have told me so. But I also believe those that say that they haven't.<br /><br />I see that some transsexual women argue that transwomen who have had crossdreaming fantasies are not "real" women. Needless to say, I do not believe in such an argument. It leads to further stigmatization, and forces them to keep a natural part of themselves secret.<br /><br />This is also where I find myself disagreeing most strongly with Ray Blanchard: I find it hard to understand why having erotic fantasies about becoming a woman, should make a transwoman less of a woman. Transwomen are -- as all women -- sexual beings. <br /><br />It is only natural that they dream of having sex as a woman. As long as they are trapped in a male body, it is not unnatural that the idea of getting a female body can be arousing. Only with a female body can they have a sex life in harmony with their inner selves.Jack Molayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03629363646482611722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-68778945907998454322010-05-17T13:30:13.889-07:002010-05-17T13:30:13.889-07:00And in any case if you indeed think you are a woma...And in any case if you indeed think you are a woman and feel like integrating yourself with other transwomen, I think you should call yourself female rather than "transgender men". Using the word "transgender men" might be really offensive to transsexuals as they never consider them as men in any way.<br />I was just pointing out your error in usage of terms, not meant to offend you outright.Vinitanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-25686751171779304432010-05-17T13:25:57.606-07:002010-05-17T13:25:57.606-07:00I do think you are somewhat wrong in your generali...I do think you are somewhat wrong in your generalizing. Most transwomen who transition don't report having any of those sissifying fantasies. They don't do it because of having crossdreaming fantasies, but rather a genuine identity mismatch, something more into real life. <br />I don't think that by the feelings you describe, you seem to have a profound gender identity mismatch in social life. Your crossdreaming fantasies might have a genuine gender dysphoria as root, but it is certainly not what transwomen face. I have not heard of transwomen like Lynn Conway reporting such cross-gender fantasies. Infact, what they had was full gender mismatch, nothing of fantasies. <br />I would suggest you to definitely investigate the root of AGP but at the same time keeping yourself away from the case of transwomen. Because AGP looks totally different from the primary transsexualism, it is bound to create fluttter or send wrong signals among post-op transsexuals who go through this blog.Vinitanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-55105956398280815572010-02-16T07:20:18.638-08:002010-02-16T07:20:18.638-08:00I would not say that reacting negatively to the ex...I would not say that reacting negatively to the extent of hating men by listening to your mother's comments would directly mean that you have a female mind. <br />As a norm, all males have got a feminine side and all women have got a masculine side. Your femininity might have got invoked due to a combination of appropriate circumstances subconciously. Like, you were more close to your mother,so, it was easy for you to get towards the feminine side. <br />If another boy resents the mother and gets closer to dad, it could be because he somehow has come to believe that men would protect and look after him more than the women, so, it's safe to be a man and be friends with men.Ghosalnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-39703636508954829762010-01-25T08:24:00.187-08:002010-01-25T08:24:00.187-08:00I would like to mention my story here.
Unlike you,...I would like to mention my story here.<br />Unlike you, my bone of contention have been dominant men and not women. I still view women as soft and submissive and despite my strong knowledge on the contrary, it's one idea my mind seems too reluctant to dismiss.<br />I got bullied, hit and teased by guys as I was not too agile and tough in sports. I simply don't know what is wrong with me but I have some typical symptoms of Aspergers and I have poor eye-hand coordination. And with that,I got to be tormented hard.Though not like agile guys, I wasn't feminine either. I was just like a dull nut, neither this way or that.<br />At first,I did not mind too much but later as I grew up, I developed a strong need to feel special to men.I did not know how to as there was nothing in me to prove myself as a good guy. However,then suddenly, my eyes turned towards females. The feminine glam became the resort through which I began to enhance my outlook. And within these 10 years,I have developed strong feminine desires and I feel like I cannot do without them. I need femininity in my fantasies as a tool of coping up with the male aggressor. Because, somehow, if I prove special,I would avoid the ire of boys for my social ineptitudes. <br />But recently, my feminine desires and my wish to embrace feminine fantasies just as a tool of show-ff has become so powerful, that I no have almost the same symptom of AGP. However, it's not that I get sexually aroused on imagining femininity, rather, I get the enthusiasm and inertia to lead a dull life with it.<br />In other words, such fantasies lift up my otherwise dead male spirit. <br />Is my condition genetic? I wouldn't say so as even now,I am not drawn to femininity for my own enjoyment. If it was not a tool of my narcissism and a way of making my life appear special, I would be indifferent to it as much as my masculinity. However,I would say that there must have been a genetic miswiring which failed to make me a real man and my AGP fantasies were a direct means to cope up with the resulting feeling of loss of self-image.Jamesnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-56869980057318699732010-01-04T12:36:34.203-08:002010-01-04T12:36:34.203-08:00I feel that it is very important that people under...I feel that it is very important that people understand that AGP exists, however, I sometimes worry that some of the language on sites like this can be confusing and cause people to draw the wrong conclusions.<br /><br />A lot of feminine and high intensity transsexuals do not have the symptoms of AGP and generally when transitioned, come across as very normal happy women. <br /><br />Someone with gender issues should be honest with themselves and try to figure out what they really want and why they want it. If they grew up masturbating in woman's clothes or feeling a sexual thrill while cross dressed, they are probably AGP. If they grew up identifying as female and trying to find ways where they could interact as a woman, a categorization of AGP is probably less likely. In order for people not to incorrectly categorize themselves into the second group, people need to realize that being AGP is part of their fundamental nature and that they should feel no stigma about coming forward with the condition.<br /><br />I do think that there are some people out there who have gender issues for psychological reasons, however, I suspect that the majority of reasons are biological but that psychology like you suggested does play a role in how these issues develop.GenderQuestioninghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07966407055595576955noreply@blogger.com