tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post6804253033132252302..comments2024-03-26T16:19:11.382-07:00Comments on Crossdreamers: Gender and sexuality diversity is not a disease!Sally Molayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02015510914816971645noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-34070050372853755402012-07-16T18:37:23.858-07:002012-07-16T18:37:23.858-07:00I agree. Diversity is something not everyone can u...I agree. Diversity is something not everyone can understand, hence the stigma. There are many sexual disorders, and most of them aren't exclusive to any sexual orientation. Just because a person chooses to <a href="http://www.directpharma.net/" rel="nofollow">buy viagra online</a> doesn't mean they're sick.Lauranoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-4474432207365399792011-11-29T11:24:29.230-08:002011-11-29T11:24:29.230-08:00"That would not help us get to the bottom of ..."That would not help us get to the bottom of our disagreement. It is certainly true, as you point out, that many crossdreamers have masochistic fetishes - but, then, so have cisgender people."<br /><br />-It seems certain that all crossdream erotic narratives & media (including my own) is a variation of a central structure of relating to the self through social-masochistic femininity. Even when it seems to be absent, masochism directed at self-image is always presupposed. From this I see the next step is analysing crossdreaming in relation to the investment in the idea of a feminine self-identity. I am also not into BDSM, sissifcation, or baby-girl stuff... The masochism I am into is much more of a subtle(yet explosive!) social embarrassment. I look forward to checking out Rachel's Havenwxhluyphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17997134183477787458noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-91449539437533606072011-11-26T03:29:11.369-08:002011-11-26T03:29:11.369-08:00@wxhluyp
"I would love to see some time giv...@wxhluyp <br /><br />"I would love to see some time given to the analysis of crossdream narratives and narratives of arousal in general. This is the elephant in the room."<br /><br />That would not help us get to the bottom of our disagreement. It is certainly true, as you point out, that many crossdreamers have masochistic fetishes - but, then, so have cisgender people. <br /><br />Among M2F crossdreamers such fantasies are to be expected, even if you postulate some kind of biological "feminine" trigger. After all, for a man to want to be a woman is considered humiliating in our culture and the SM aspect of the fantasies may be one way of handling that guilt.<br /><br />Having followed the crossdreamer culture at sites like Rachel Haven, where M2F crossdreamers write down their sexual fantasies, it is clear that only a minority are into extreme sissyfication and BDSM fantasies. <br /><br />For man the main fantasies is to be a normal girl in a normal love relationship.Jack Molayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03629363646482611722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-73368990408475072392011-11-24T13:31:15.101-08:002011-11-24T13:31:15.101-08:00"Hm. I suspect this peson truly is transsexua..."Hm. I suspect this peson truly is transsexual, even if the sex misalignment expresses itself through sexual fantasies only." <br /><br />-This is an essentialization of an intrinsically fickle constructs such as self identity and object of sexual fetishism. Also stating that one determines the other. <br /><br />"The test question will be: Will this person feel strong emotional and psychological pain if he or she is not transitioning? If the answer is yes"<br /><br />-I think this feeling strong emotional and psychological pain is vague. Especially as it seems most auto-erotic fetishists have trouble distinguishing between the object of sexual desire and fickle self-identity. Common-sense categorization of arousal can be extremely misleading when applied to more abstract and counter-intuitive fetishism.<br /><br />I would love to see some time given to the analysis of crossdream narratives and narratives of arousal in general. This is the elephant in the room.wxhluyphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17997134183477787458noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-52550371179484392552011-11-24T00:29:03.686-08:002011-11-24T00:29:03.686-08:00@Robyn
I agree with all of what you say.
"W...@Robyn<br /><br />I agree with all of what you say.<br /><br />"What if the diagnosis of Transvestic Fetishism IS accurate and the self-diagnosis of GID is wrong? Is that even a possibility?"<br /><br />It is certainly a possibility that some, as wxhluyp argues, are crossdreaming due to some kind of erotic, symbolic, association only. If the "borders" between the sexes are as porous as I believe, that should be given. <br /><br />Still, if that is the case, it is only a natural variation of human sexuality which harms no one, just as my Norwegian BDSM contacts say. It is not a mental illness.<br /><br />So what if a "fetishistic" crossdreamer asks for hormones and surgery, should the doctors give it to him or her? And should the public health system pay for it?<br /><br />There is no simple answer to this:<br /><br />1. The person could me truly mentally ill, not because he or she is a crossdreamer, but for other reasons. <br /><br />If you can diagnose some other psychiatric condition, I guess any doctor would be very reluctant to allow for such surgery.<br /><br />2. The person is not mentally ill, but wants to play out his or her crossdreaming fantasies in real life, without experiencing gender dysphoria, and purely for sexual reasons. <br /><br />Hm. I suspect this peson truly is transsexual, even if the sex misalignment expresses itself through sexual fantasies only. The test question will be: Will this person feel strong emotional and psychological pain if he or she is not transitioning? If the answer is yes, there is a fair chance he or she is truly transsexual. <br /><br />If the answer is no, I would definitely hesitate.Jack Molayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03629363646482611722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-88623328459721450652011-11-21T17:42:48.954-08:002011-11-21T17:42:48.954-08:00Difference(variety) without disorder!
Rather than...Difference(variety) without disorder!<br /><br />Rather than aiming for the recognition of fetishism as normal, it should be recognised that ALL sexual desire is fetishistic.<br /><br />"it is -- in may opinion -- hard to categorize non-crossdressing crossdreamers as fetishists."<br /><br />-As I have stated before, as a crossdreamer, crossdressing is simply an extension of the fantasy. Where I am linking my body with the narrative.<br /><br />"Potentially problematic results from this study were: “Transvestic fetishism also was strongly related to experiences of sexual arousal from using pain, spying on others having sex, and exposing one’s genitals to a stranger.” "<br /><br />-These are very common themes in very normal sexuality. Crossdreaming is extremely related to other social-masochistic fetishes, especially subjection as a cuckold, subjection to black supremacy etc.<br /><br />Much of these loose statistics and correlations fail to grasp the actual experience and structure of the "conditions".<br /><br />I cringe when I someone attempts to affirm an transcendent self-identity, let alone it as a "disorder". Although if an individual would feel more comfortable altering they're body, and is deemed not to be mistaken, then they should be granted they're wishwxhluyphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17997134183477787458noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-75800071751421032262011-11-21T10:01:29.652-08:002011-11-21T10:01:29.652-08:00So what you are saying is...
There are a number o...So what you are saying is...<br /><br />There are a number of people know they need sexual reassignment and are following procedure to obtain a mental health evaluation. They expect to be diagnosed with GID and given approval to proceed. Their evaluation is being conducted by intelligent, educated, knowledgeable professionals. The purpose of this evaluation is to make sure that they are not doing something that would harm them or anyone else and to insure they obtain the treatment they need. This should be an easy diagnosis because anyone with half a brain would see that these people clearly have GID.<br /><br />However, their diagnosis is not GID but Transvestic Fetishism which now is a roadblock on their quest for sexual reassignment. This diagnosis MUST BE WRONG! These intelligent, knowledgeable professionals either cannot tell the difference between GID and Transvestic Fetishism or they must be transphobic or something... <br /><br />In order to correct this injustice and to make right this wrong, then the ability to diagnose ANYONE with Transvestic Fetishism should be eliminated. Then these misguided and hurtful professionals would have no choice but to diagnose these people with GID. These people can now get their sexual reassignment they desire without any hurtful rejection because they obviously know more about GID then the professionals they are consulting.<br /><br />So why have the requirement for an evaluation prior to sexual reassignment? Why not allow anyone to obtain it for any reason at any time? <br /><br />If these people are being misdiagnosed with Transvestic Fetishism instead of GID, then why aren't they being sued for malpractice or referred to their medical licensing board? Shouldn't these "professionals" be removed from practice if they are doing more harm to their patients than good?<br /><br />What if the diagnosis of Transvestic Fetishism IS accurate and the self-diagnosis of GID is wrong? Is that even a possibility?Robyn Phttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00655968146251274730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-48565989486885356492011-11-20T02:50:32.254-08:002011-11-20T02:50:32.254-08:00The scientific "discourse" has its own r...The scientific "discourse" has its own rules for determining who is on the inside and who are not to be taken seriously, and one important rule is to make use of science sounding terms and expressions. <br /><br />It is, for instance, amazing to see how many researchers -- even those that feel sympathy for transgender people -- insist on calling M2F transwomen that are attracted to women "homosexual", as if they were men.Jack Molayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03629363646482611722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-90823441486866523052011-11-18T17:06:31.794-08:002011-11-18T17:06:31.794-08:00Transvestic Fetishism. Gender Identity Disorders. ...Transvestic Fetishism. Gender Identity Disorders. It all sounds so cold, clinical, and creepy. When the medical community is still labelling us with those terms, is it any wonder the rest of society has trouble accepting the concept of diversity?Tanya Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12058117562533270654noreply@blogger.com