tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post7847472390808781866..comments2024-03-26T16:19:11.382-07:00Comments on Crossdreamers: Warrior Princess - On Using Hypermasculinity to Kill Off Your Feminine SideSally Molayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02015510914816971645noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-65060071683420233332013-11-11T23:53:10.294-08:002013-11-11T23:53:10.294-08:00@ponnies
Thank you for an interesting comment!
I...@ponnies<br /><br />Thank you for an interesting comment!<br /><br />I do not actually think there is that much of a difference between what you are describing and the people I have discussed in your quotes.<br /><br />The main difference is that you seem to have been conscious of your crossdreaming all the time. You have not tried to fool yourself into believing you were not a crossdreamer, even if you have hidden this side from others.<br /><br />Other crossdreamers go one step further: They not only try to make the others believe they are "real men". They try to force themselves to believe so. That is much more destructive.<br /><br />Jack Molayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03629363646482611722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-27008396242909366542013-11-11T18:22:09.282-08:002013-11-11T18:22:09.282-08:00"Other male to female transgender -- especial..."Other male to female transgender -- especially those who cannot realistically live up to the ideals of soldiers and policemen -- often end up in more "nerdy" male dominated spheres of life, like engineering or computing."<br /><br />Yeah I did that. But not to feel <br />masculine. At least not consciously.<br />"Not only do these occupations imbue them with some sense of masculinity. The male dominance in these communities also helps them avoid facing their fears."<br /><br />Not really sure about that.<br /><br />"If you do not interact romantically with women, you can pretend nothing is wrong."<br />No, I was a lesbian trapped in a mans body and not having anyone romantically involved with me felt VERY wrong to me.<br /><br />"Trans kids have a tendency of secretly identifying with every stereotypical aspect of their hidden sex, in the same way non-trans kids try on the meanings and the mannerisms of their gender in order to gain respect and develop a stable personality."<br /><br />Not really, I fantasized about being mermaid like all the other trans kids but I quickly learned to hide all my feminine mannerisms to avoid getting ridiculed. In fact I tried on the meanings and the mannerisms of males in order to gain respect in an attempt to develop a stable personality.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06402120181479404744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-2094274526932505782013-11-11T18:15:01.138-08:002013-11-11T18:15:01.138-08:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06402120181479404744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-71627294548689698882013-08-05T05:12:34.757-07:002013-08-05T05:12:34.757-07:00@Sean
George L. Mosse has written a very interest...@Sean<br /><br />George L. Mosse has written a very interesting book called <i>The Image of Man,</i> where he goes into the creation of modern masculinity.<br /><br />He points out that the current idea of what it means to be a man appeared sometime in the 19th and early 20th century. <br /><br />Sports and physical health became an essential part of the regime that wanted to turn boys into "real men". He writes:<br /><br />"Masculinity was regarded as one piece from its very beginning: body and soul, outward appearance and inward virtue were supposed to form one harmonious whole, a perfect construct where every part was in its place. Modern masculinity was a stereotype, presenting a standardized mental picture, "the unchanging representation of another", as <i>Webster's Dictionary</i> defines stereotypes."<br /><br />There was no room for individual variation.<br /><br />The Nazis brought this stereotype into the extreme but also European socialists and American educators used sports and gymnastics to create the perfect man.<br /><br />This perfect man was then contrasted with all the weak aliens: the Jews, "Negros", gypsies, artists and homosexuals, who were all pictured as effeminate and/or hypersexual.<br /><br />As we have seen from "Mad Men", this stereotype didn't start to crack until the late 1960's, but it still has an effect on those that step to far off the beaten path.Jack Molayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03629363646482611722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-34730095062703841962013-08-03T11:42:10.176-07:002013-08-03T11:42:10.176-07:00"To me the fact that a male bodied Navy Seal ..."To me the fact that a male bodied Navy Seal decides to transition is proof of the exact opposite: The inner drive that forced her to take this extreme decisions goes far beyond anything you can expect from a controllable "fetish" or fixed idea."<br /><br />How wishfully naive.<br /><br />"Implicitly Speckhard also gives her own psychological explanation for Kristine's female identity that I find difficult to accept."<br /><br />Perfectly reasonable account, however much you dislike it.<br /><br />"In other words: Using this kind of reasoning, it seems you can use any childhood, regardless of internal family dynamics, to "explain" a transgender condition."<br /><br />As is also the case conversely, with an deterministic essentialist biological explanation.<br /><br />"That is: People easily forget that their attempts at fitting in, actually may make them stand out, simply because they fail to live up to the demands of friends, foe and family... I know for a fact that I was not wired for the life..."<br /><br />The failure to match up to idealised stereotypes does not inherently imply anything beyond unrealistic expectations. <br /><br />"I seriously doubt that the harsh upbringing of Kristin is a sufficient explanation for her gender dysphoria. However, her father's fundamentalist obsession with making a real man out of Chris does help explain why she chose to join the military."<br /><br />If one is to take in the complexity of all the issues involved, I seriously think it may have played an extremely important part, if not the central part. <br /><br />http://www.policymic.com/articles/54105/the-one-thing-all-men-feel-but-never-admit<br /><br />Our fetish is a symptom of this culture, if not a direct sexualzation of it.theautogynephiliachttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01825700722338875399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-38122827281606081162013-08-02T22:40:14.613-07:002013-08-02T22:40:14.613-07:00It is a really interesting post for sure. And also...It is a really interesting post for sure. And also it sad that it is so true. I think that in many societies such as the American one it is seen as bad to be more feminine if you are a guy. It is the idea that a guy is seen as a "sissy" or not quite a man. The thing is that in America being a man is really enforced in a way, especially in sports. It does seem that this makes more people go into hypsermasculinty. I also understand the desire to isolate yourself from the world in order to not feel the social pressures of the world, and go into a more "manly" job. What's funny is that the job I want to do is seen in some ways as more feminine, but at the higher levels it is more dominated by men. <br />It is kind of funny because I want to help soldiers and military people in the field of psychology. But I do really feel the pressure to be a "man" by the society around me. Seanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00588988093902952778noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2472400923228993687.post-89077978397376004852013-07-29T19:45:47.120-07:002013-07-29T19:45:47.120-07:00I don't know why this article / video struck m...I don't know why this article / video struck me so hard. You hear stories like this all the time about how a transgender person acted super macho to suppress their true feelings, only to come out later when they can't be suppressed anymore. Perhaps it's acting seeing video of before/after, perhaps it's because such a masculine bearded man became such a pretty woman. All I know is that I'm gonna have to pick up that book.tg_captionerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15015206450712314680noreply@blogger.com