About Crossdreamers.com

Crossdreamers.com is a blog focusing on crossdreamer, crossdresser, queer and transgender issues. And yes, I am using the word transgender in its broad umbrella sense here, in the meaning of gender variant.
Photo: Tom Maday

What makes this one a bit different from other blogs of this kind is that it contains a lot of information on the sexuality of genderqueer, nonbinary and transgender people -- their dreams and desires.

Some trans people get turned on by the idea of having sex as their target gender. I call this crossdreaming. Trans activist and philiosopher Julia Serano refers to female/feminine or male/masculine embodiment fantasies, while other refers to this as cross-gender arousal.

The blog started out as a correction to the so-called autogynephilia theory, which reduces people who have such fantasies to "paraphiliacs". If want to know why that transphobic theory fails to explain what crossdreaming is about, you have come to the right place.

Please note that for many the term crossdreamer has come to mean the idea of being or becoming their target sex in general, i.e. beyond sexuality. That makes perfect sense to me. Indeed, the blog  also contains a lot of information on transgender, LGBT and gender issues of other types.

I am a male to female transgender activist living in Scandinavia. I have not transitioned, but support all trans people who have done so. Jack Molay is my pen name.

If you want to contact me directly, send an email to jack.molay@gmail.com.

Jack Molay

More about Crossdreaming

Many crossdreamers identify with their assigned gender, others think of themselves as genderqueer or nonbinary, while others again are clearly transsexual. Some experience crossdreaming as a gender mismatch and suffer from gender dysphoria. Others do not.

Some move from one side of the continuum to another throughout their lives.  For some this is experienced as nothing but a sexual kink. To others crossdreaming is just one of many ways of expressing and exploring a cross-gender identity.

Crossdreamers and transgender people are, like most people, sexual beings. It should come as no surprise that they dream about having sex as their target gender. Unfortunately we live in cultures where there is a lot of shame attached to sex outside the vanilla norm. This especially applies to male assigned people who dream about being women.

This is why it is so important that we talk about this issue.

More about crossdreaming

Sister sites

Crossdreamers.com has a few sister-sites that might be of interest to you:


  1. Help, I keep getting error messages today, 11/29/16, when trying to
    access the Crossdreamers Forum section.

  2. Yes, Lefora is fixing the log in data base and moving servers at the same time. They promise me a much faster service after they have finished.

    I see that it is normally available during US daytime hours.

    You can READ the forum if you open it in a private/incognito window while not signing in, but you cannot make any comments while doing so.

  3. Hi Jack,

    My name is Anuj Agarwal. I'm Founder of Feedspot.

    I would like to personally congratulate you as your blog Crossdreamers has been selected by our panelist as one of the Top 75 Crossdressing Blogs on the web.


    I personally give you a high-five and want to thank you for your contribution to this world. This is the most comprehensive list of Top 75 Crossdressing Blogs on the internet and I’m honored to have you as part of this!

    Also, you have the honor of displaying the badge on your blog.


  4. Thank you, Anuj! I am glad you like the site!

  5. I prefer and think of it to be more accurate to use the term "integrated self" rather then binary"


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